Follow the Rules
Apparently the night before an actuarial exam is cause for going out to dinner. I always thought you were supposed to go out and celebrate AFTER an exam. TheCrazyCanuck's exam is tomorrow morning, so I went out to dinner with her and Hawkeye. TheCrazyCanuck was also going to select Red Robin for her "last supper", but thankfully she came around and eventually chose Outback. Unfortunately, I am STUFFED because I ate too much.
We had an interesting dinner conversation. Since TheCrazyCanuck has just started dating a new guy, we talked about dating rules (i.e., where to go, what you will talk about, how far will you go, etc). I was asked if I had specific rules for first dates and other dating related issues. Then, I was lectured about how I should behave when I am on first/early dates with a girl. I guess I should have expected this since girls like to lecture...:) j/k. I wasn't too surprised by TheCrazyCanuck and Hawkeye's personal dating rules (or lack thereof in some cases), but I never really thought about it much with regards to myself. I guess that means that I need to go on more dates.
In the spirit of this dinner conversation, I'm going to ask my two loyal readers (and anyone else out there who is too chicken to make comments on my wonderful blog) to comment on your own personal "rules" or your thought about the fact that other people have dating "rules". I'll gladly read and silently judge (unless you want me to comment).
We had an interesting dinner conversation. Since TheCrazyCanuck has just started dating a new guy, we talked about dating rules (i.e., where to go, what you will talk about, how far will you go, etc). I was asked if I had specific rules for first dates and other dating related issues. Then, I was lectured about how I should behave when I am on first/early dates with a girl. I guess I should have expected this since girls like to lecture...:) j/k. I wasn't too surprised by TheCrazyCanuck and Hawkeye's personal dating rules (or lack thereof in some cases), but I never really thought about it much with regards to myself. I guess that means that I need to go on more dates.
In the spirit of this dinner conversation, I'm going to ask my two loyal readers (and anyone else out there who is too chicken to make comments on my wonderful blog) to comment on your own personal "rules" or your thought about the fact that other people have dating "rules". I'll gladly read and silently judge (unless you want me to comment).
posted by GaryGinew at 8:42 PM
6 Comments:
heh. I had this conversation with the girls when we got together for our reunion in Mpls in May. Since I had been out of the dating scene for... oh, 6.5 years, it was all new to me.
I was told that the standard rule is to wait at least 3 dates before getting physical (whatever that means, right?). that's not necessarily indicative of how easy we all are though, I think that's more of a general guideline that Cosmo or some other source agrees on. Personally, we all agreed that it's more about when you feel comfortable with the person.
I posit the opinion that it can also be about when you have enough alcohol in your system, but that's just me.
I asked this question to a group of men, and all I got was:
a) it's about keeping your "whore ratio" below 1.
and
b) how easy you are/how many people you've slept with in the past doesn't really matter. It's about how well you work together as a team.
I have lots of other rules that I think the guy should follow, but I don't feel like posting them, because they're all based on my own personal experience, and that's going to vary from person to person.
One of the first times me and Dan hung out, and I was leaving at like 5am, he was about to let me walk home alone...across Ann Arbor....alone....at 5AM in the morning!!! I remember standing there, and he was looking at me like "what?" and I just said, "Aren't you going to walk me home?!?!" After that, I joked for a while that I was going to make him a book of rules to follow with the next girl he dated, divided into chapters. Chapter 1, of course, would be "Walk The Girl Home". :)
Of course there are many rules that girls follow and expect boys to follow...unfortunately, many of these vary from girl to girl. A few that are more or less universal:
1. Pay. It might seem old-fashioned, but 99% of women expect it on a first date, regardless of offering to pay.
2. Hold the doors for her. Likewise, seems old-fashioned, but it shows curtesy to your date. You don't have to hold her chair out for her, or stand up if she leaves or enters the room, however. :)
I'm sure there are others...just can't think of them right now!
Oh, jules reminded me. when following rule 1, do NOT look at the check, see how much it costs, and only then go, "oh, I guess it wasn't that much, I can get it."
ESPECIALLY when I only ordered two plain eggs, for like $2.50.
And don't expect her to carry the conversation the entire time. Come with something to say. Otherwise it's going to be really awkward. She should be able to carry the conversation if she needs to, but don't make her do all the work. Make a mental checklist of things you can talk about in case the conversation turns dull.
I only have one rule at the moment and maybe that's because I don't date very often.
1) If you want to go out again, don't ask me to call you at work where you don't have your own private line because you don't have a phone at home!
I think that none of the guys have much courtesy anymore. Half the time the door is swinging toward my face and the other half they're shouldering by as I open the door. Nice...
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Good job.
mysterious_angel really likes bon jovi.
hmmm....
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