Since Mouse asked nicely
I didn't get a chance to post tonight until now since I worked until 7, ate dinner, vegged out briefly, and then went to my soccer game. I hate it when we have the 10PM game. It's 11:30 and I can finally unwind.
I have a story that I suppose I can pass along. I could use some advice from one of the ladies out there anyway. I went out on a few dates with a girl recently. Three dates to be exact. She's a very nice person. High school English teacher. She coaches high school lacrosse. Very smart. She's also very interested in me (or at least I get that impression). However, even though I can say a lot of good things about her, I just don't feel a spark or a connection. The first time we went out was fun. However, I just haven't felt much of a connection since. We went on a hike up a local "mountain" this past weekend and had lunch at the top. It was a good three-hour date. During these three hours, it became obvious that she doesn't seem to share my sense of humor. I swear that I had to explain any reference I made to The Simpsons, Family Guy, or Office Space. Who has never heard the phrase "boo urns" before? Seriously. She didn't even laugh when I told her the story of that quote. She doesn't seem to care about sports in general even though she coaches lacrosse, which may be a problem at times. However, lack of interest in sports is by no means a deal breaker. I also get a vibe based on some of her stories from school and among her friends that she is a controlling person, but I may be reading too much into this.
Do you guys think I am being too picky here? Should I give this another shot or should I just tell her that I am not interested in a relationship? I think I need to figure this out soon (I have not talked to her since our most recent date last Sunday). Although I am admittedly far from a ladies man, I just want to make sure I am pursuing this for the right reasons and not because the girl is interested in me. I need a female opinion. Thanks!
I have a story that I suppose I can pass along. I could use some advice from one of the ladies out there anyway. I went out on a few dates with a girl recently. Three dates to be exact. She's a very nice person. High school English teacher. She coaches high school lacrosse. Very smart. She's also very interested in me (or at least I get that impression). However, even though I can say a lot of good things about her, I just don't feel a spark or a connection. The first time we went out was fun. However, I just haven't felt much of a connection since. We went on a hike up a local "mountain" this past weekend and had lunch at the top. It was a good three-hour date. During these three hours, it became obvious that she doesn't seem to share my sense of humor. I swear that I had to explain any reference I made to The Simpsons, Family Guy, or Office Space. Who has never heard the phrase "boo urns" before? Seriously. She didn't even laugh when I told her the story of that quote. She doesn't seem to care about sports in general even though she coaches lacrosse, which may be a problem at times. However, lack of interest in sports is by no means a deal breaker. I also get a vibe based on some of her stories from school and among her friends that she is a controlling person, but I may be reading too much into this.
Do you guys think I am being too picky here? Should I give this another shot or should I just tell her that I am not interested in a relationship? I think I need to figure this out soon (I have not talked to her since our most recent date last Sunday). Although I am admittedly far from a ladies man, I just want to make sure I am pursuing this for the right reasons and not because the girl is interested in me. I need a female opinion. Thanks!
posted by GaryGinew at 11:31 PM
3 Comments:
I have an opinion, don't worry. I'm just busy finishing up this stupid poster. seriously. who makes people design posters, which are the WORST POSSIBLE WAY OF CONVEYING INFORMATION EVER?
right now, I hate grad school.
Wow, it's been a long time since I posted...For starters, props for the date hiking up the mountain. That was a great idea.
I'll add a male opinion as well -- though sometimes worthless when it comes to dating -- I guess I would say if you're not sure what to do, then don't put pressure on yourself to have to decide if you like this girl after only 3 dates. There's nothing wrong with telling her you've had fun, but that you want to keep things really casual. If nothing else, being in a casual relationship allows you to still have fun, but you can feel free to meet other girls that you may perhaps have more of a spark with. (the best of both worlds) If she responds unfavorably to being more casual, then cut her loose if you're not feeling it.
I was about to give props to unicorn for this line:
"I'll add a male opinion as well -- though sometimes worthless when it comes to dating"
but then I continued reading and... well, he's pretty much spot on with regards to everything. not just the men being worthless part.
additionally... if keeping things casual is just too much of a hassle for the amount of "fun" you have with this girl (i.e. you have to pay for all dates, the sex is bad, or however men evaluate these kinds of things) then I'd just cut her loose.
but then again, my dad told me [for the fifth time] this weekend that I'll never find someone to marry me if I keep blowing men off. luckily I have a "backup" for when I'm 35 waiting in the wings (er... California).
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